Cream teas and flowing rivers

I used to love afternoon teas. But that was way back in the days when I could guzzle umpteen cups of tea and scoff down all the carb-loaded scones and sarnies without them affecting either my waist or my bladder. Today I am not that keen on the afternoon teas anymore for various reasons and I think basically my taste buds have also changed.

But who observes these minute changes in you? Sometimes I think we ourselves are not totally conscious of how much one changes over the years. Not only in tastes but also in personality. Hopefully one is growing and evolving all the time.

I am convinced though that sometimes even close family and friends do not or cannot keep up with these changes. That struck me when a close relative recently treated me to an afternoon tea because she remembered that I liked them and another sent me a link to a themed tea which he thought I might enjoy. As both occurred one after the other, it got me thinking: how well do we really know people? And more importantly how can we keep track of their changing tastes as well as nature?

According to Heraclitus, who reasoned that everything is always changing and that this fact is fundamental to the functioning of the universe, it is not possible to step in the “same river” twice because the river is ever-changing.

“No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it’s not the same river and he’s not the same man.”

“And he’s not the same man.” That’s the crux. Like the flowing river, people are also ‘flowing’ from one day, one moment to the next. That is why it is suggested that when you meet a person, be so open as to see him with fresh eyes, as if you are meeting him for the first time. This is especially true for people near and dear to you, because one tends to assume and take their traits and proclivities as set in stone and as they are so close, (in proximity as well as relations), one needs to step back a bit and be alert to be able to notice the changes which can sometimes be quite subtle. Easier said than done, I think.

Yet worth keeping in mind, wouldn’t you say?


55 thoughts on “Cream teas and flowing rivers

  1. I love this…. and what you said is absolutely spot on… we are all growing in a number of ways, but to be familiar with one another we often like to remember something they like or don’t like, forgetting that over time our tastes, traits, and behaviours as well as the way we think and do things all change… we are all growing, and learning… and that doesn’t stop… or shouldn’t…

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  2. And I still love a cream tea… although just like you, they don’t do my waistline any good. Thank you for taking even a small interest in my blog. I do not know what an earth people must think on here… but I guess that’s the beauty of blogging, it doesnt really matter…

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      1. Possibly, and perhaps part can’t. There are five personality traits that I would say immutable in a person, they may very at times but always remain. They are formed in childhood and stay with us. That is the big five personality traits openness to experience, conscientiousness’, extroversion, agreeableness and neuroticism. While many things about a person may change, I would argue that these things remain. I would agree that that they may vary in digress of presence, especially with conscious effort. But ultimately they make the core of a person’s character. That’s just my thoughts anyway.

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  3. A wonderful topic. Glad I stopped by. 🙂 After reinventing myself over and over, I think I finally have a good understanding of who I am at the center. Surprisingly, the core values go back to my childhood and much of what I learned from my family.

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  4. I am a tea fan myself. I like in particular the green tea. But it has to be bio. The flavor is purer and tastier than that of Lipton’s for example.

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  5. I love the river analogy…..
    Some very good points to remember about the people we know, and how they might be growing and changing.
    Thanks for visiting my blog!

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  6. Oh, I’m so glad you found my blog, because it means that I get to find YOU! I never thought about the person stepping into the river, only that the river kept changing. But so does the person. Two different changes, not one. I wonder if Hereclitus thought of this….or was it only you?


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  7. What a great blog post. I’m a tea enthusiast, nothing works better fir me than a cup of tea, depending on the mood, time of day and how much time I gave to drink and enjoy it. Green Tea, black tea, fruit tea, herb tea,roobos, white, they all have a place in my rea collection on the bench. And I love high teas! They are the best!
    I like the analogy about the river. So true. Heraclitus was very wise.

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  8. Thank you, for liking my web blog and leading me to yours. I enjoyed this blog about permanent change – how true! Permanence rests inside constant change – the river is always flowing (in temperate climates) but the water is in constant flux.

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  9. Sadly the complications are our doing😢 I have a distraught cat, he reallyis not happy with the water feature at the bottom of the garden! Water can be a metaphor for tranquility and devastation! Give me the tranquility any day 😊

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